After my husband’s stroke, between caring for him and our 5 kids, I had VERY limited time. Out of necessity, I was forced to do a friendship audit, prioritizing the people in my life down to family and my closest friends. 

In midlife, you may find that you’ve outgrown some relationships in your life. This may also include friends from your past you’d like to reconnect with. This stage of life allows us to choose friends for US, not just people we’re spending time with due to convenience or circumstance. 

Here are 3 Steps to do your own “Friendship Audit:”

1. Draw a Circle: Imagine yourself at the center. Now, start placing names around your circle based on how close they are to you and how often you connect.

2. Adjust: Is there anyone that you haven’t seen recently that you’d like to add? How about friends from your past? Add these in, too, just outside the circle. 

3. Evaluate: Do these relationships serve you well? Is there someone you want to reach out to or bring closer? Take note of these people as you plan moving forward. 

4. Take Action: Identify one person you’d like to reconnect with this month. Reach out, even if it’s a small gesture – a text, a phone call, or setting up a walk or coffee date. 

 

Friendships in midlife are definitely a journey – sometimes a bit complicated, but always worth it. As you navigate this stage, remember that taking the time to nurture your connections doesn’t just improve your relationships – it also makes your life more joyful and fulfilling. Whether it’s reaching out to an old friend, setting healthy boundaries, or just celebrating what you bring to the table, these small actions can lead to deeper, more meaningful friendships. Prioritize making time for the people who make you feel good, reconnect with those you care about and be open to new connections. Every effort you put into your friendships is a step toward a richer, happier life.