Midlife is a time of so many changes, and shifts in our friendships can be part of this. While we’re raising kids at home, we may have built-in social opportunities with parents of our kids’ friends, as well as interacting with friends during sports and activities for our families. 

In midlife, however, we have a unique chance to redefine our relationships, including our friendships. It’s important to understand that, in many ways, nurturing friendships is also a form of self-care. 

Here are 3 ways to bring more friendships into your life while also caring for yourself: 

1. Initiate: Don’t be afraid to be the one who initiates plans. It might feel awkward, but many people are looking for connection. Give a few options and you’ll likely be able to see if someone is interested. If they don’t, don’t take it personally – we all have different social needs and this is a time of life where we each have such varied responsibilities and free time. 

2. Quality over Quantity: Focus on a few key friendships that truly uplift you rather than spreading yourself too thin. Who are the people who lift you up? 

3. Be Yourself: The best connections come when you’re authentically YOU. Let go of trying to be perfect in your interactions. Be willing to be vulnerable and let people see the real you.